I remember, looooong before the engagement, coming across a dress that made me stop in my tracks. It was Jamie-Lynn Sigler’s wedding dress (from her first marriage in 2003), and it was a simple, strapless Monique Lhuillier gown with a corset back. I fell in love with that dress; that dress gave me serious wedding fever. Sadly photos are nearly impossible to find, she must have done a great job working to get them all taken away, but here’s what I could find:
Images via LIFE magazine
When it came time to look for my own gown, I couldn’t get this dress out of my head. Something about the simplicity of the design paired with the corset back just had me swooning. But the final product in my dress search? Not really even close to what I thought I wanted:
My final dress was the result of an amazing (and sweet) dressmaker in Hoboken saying “you should try this” and completely changed my mind from what I thought I had wanted to what was the right one for me. Too many episodes of “Say Yes to the Dress” had me thinking I was supposed to cry, to get that “feeling”, but I didn’t know what that feeling was going to be! In the end, I knew when I didn’t want to take it off, couldn’t wait for Pat to see me in it, and continued to daydream about it long after I left the dress shop, that it was “the one”.
I asked you on Facebook a while back about whether you got that “feeling”, and here’s what some of you had to say:
I fell in love with two dresses in the store. I was so stressed. I could not decide. My good friend (and a newlywed) told me to go home and sleep on it. So I did. The next morning I could only remember “the one”. I couldn’t even remember the details on the other one. All I could picture was me in the one! I loved everything about it! SO brides…when in doubt sleep on it! :)
I knew my dress was the one when I did not want to take it off! The consultant also picked it. Not at all what I was looking for but it I looked and felt fantastic in it. They know what they are doing – it’s their job!
As a plus size bride, I knew it would be tough to find “the one”. I did a lot of internet searching and found Bonny Bridal, I tried on a few dresses at a local shop but they just didn’t have MY dress. So on a recommendation from Bonny Bridal I went an hour away to LOREN’S BRIDAL. My hunny and I (yes, I took him) sat down with Pat at Loren’s and told her what I was looking for… 1 it had to be a Bonny, 2 it had to be chiffon and that I really wanted sleeves. Pat looked at me like I was a little crazy and then you could see that she had a “light bulb” moment. She had a discontinued sample dress in their backroom. I tried on that dress (IT FIT!) and a couple others. Hunny told me that the d/c’d dress was my dress because that was the only one I smiled in. I REALLY knew that it was THE DRESS at my 2nd fitting as I was standing there singing to myself “I love my dress, I love my dress” (here comes the bride melody) :)
I tried on dresses on several occasions. It was the not the first dress I tried on. I kept insisting on choosing dresses myself. When I finally let the consultant to her job – she found MY dress – and it was the last dress I tried on. Everyone that was with me got a tiny bit teary eyed. I became very focused; everything became clear and I could see that there would be nothing else out there for me. I “settled down” and everything was very zen for me.
I know it’s easier said than done, but in the end, if you can go in to your dress shopping with an open mind, and take the pressure off yourself to “get that feeling”, you will open yourself up to so many more possibilities and prevent disappointment if the feeling never comes. Enjoy the experience!
So, did you know your dress was “the one”? Did you get that feeling?